My pet peeve is people thinking that because I am non-speaking I am unable to understand. Being someone who doesn’t communicate with words by mouth, actually has me understand cues in a bigger way.
You see, I have spent so many years in silence observing the behaviour of others that I have developed my ability to read people. Authenticity is very important around me. In other words, I am a breathing lie detector.
Go into any group setting and the level of inauthenticity is hard for my sensitive body to bear. Everyone posturing to look good, prove themselves, hide their true selves, or just plain lie is outstanding. All of it a cover for fear of not belonging. We are all totally driven by fear.
What would those same groups look like if motivated by community, diversity, inclusion and appreciation? How would our ingrained social habits shift?
(Note: I am speaking here only of non-speaking autistics with motor and sensory differences. I am not qualified to speak for all who are on the wide spectrum of autism.)