Each day is right in reference to recharging.

My body is easily wiped.  With controlling impulses, angelically helping others energetically, managing to be productive, and riffing on Facebook comments, my export of my limited energy is huge.  If I don’t balance this with some good recharge time the first thing to go is body control.

You know what it feels like when you have the flu and a trip to the fridge wipes you out?  Well, try living that way for extended periods of time and you get a glimpse of my world.

Mommy is constantly attempting to find the balance point for me getting everything I want to accomplish done while we leave space for all that could happen.  Quite a juggling act she has going on.

We have had a few really balanced days lately and they are the best.  Then a weekend of adventure and balanced with movies.  Each day valuable in its own way.  The key is more recharge than output right now, as I recover from big adventures and crappy sickness.

Mommy is doing a really good job, and she is getting drained.  So, my request for those that love us is to be patient while WE find our balance and can give more and more to the community. Mommy is very talented and a total gift to families, and a burnt out Mommy is no good to anyone.

And we are so wanting to make a difference that can be lasting and growing.

Angelically yours,



Hope is quite real

Good really nice and helpful humans will sometimes want to manage your expectations by doing things to assuage a glimmer of hope.  This is done not cruelly, but because they don’t want to see you brokenhearted.  However, I believe this is a complete disservice to the person.

Absolutely nothing in life is guaranteed.  One method of therapy may work for one person and not another.  That is just the nature of being an individual.

Ask yourself if you trust your own inner guidance, that is the only guidance you need.

You are uniquely attuned to what is right for you and your family.  Guide from a place of really free thinking and you will surprise yourself the directions you choose to go.  You owe no one an explanation for your choices.  They will have whatever reaction they have, and that is more about them than you.

Be bold.  Live free.  Do what feels right for you.  No excuses and no explanations required.



Please Have Compassion

No really good things can happen without compassion.

Without compassion you can not listen without your guilded nonsense – otherwise known as the opinions, justifications, and filters that warn you of impending danger.  Danger, in a conversation, just isn’t bad the way getting slapped in the face is.

How can you really see someone or hear what they are saying through your nonsense?  Wanting to totally be a really spectacular friend, spouse, co-worker, etc. means actively putting your nonsense to the side and being present.  Powerful listening is an action of compassion and vision beyond real value, sacrificing our nonsense allows for understanding and building a trusting foundation.  It says “I’m a strong person and I get you.”

Love is being able to set aside your nonsense and be with another, willing to be vulnerable and real.  Let’s up our compassion, especially for those we would tend to judge or avoid.  That is one action that can make a humongous impact.

Who will you exercise your compassion muscle with today?



All Communication is Good Communication

Quite a whirlwind of a week.

I am so happy that so many people were excited about a group on Facebook where families of kids and people like me could connect.  Family is important and I consider my fellow non, minimally, and unreliably speaking good friends to be family.

I want us all to be able to connect and unite.  Our common and different pasts all brought us to a place where we can now be beacons for others who lack doing as we do – communicating letter by letter not with our mouths.

I am disappointed that some seem to think it is ok to mess with a 14 and 21 year old’s wish for inclusiveness with our peers and their families.  Who does that?

I get people have a strong allegiance for method and/or provider.  The one that worked to unleash their voice.  Makes sense and is all good except when your foolish devotion blinds you to the bigger picture.

My point is to have your devotion and your peers too, takes getting that communication unleashed is our common goal, and to get on board for THAT.  Then, and only then, will we be a virtually unstoppable force.  The conversations about method will come after the current barricades of non-belief are shifted.  The method will be “what works for the individual” not a prescription.

I love all the providers of the different methods but if I owe my ability to communicate to anyone, that person is my Mom.  She has stood by my side, powerfully listening for my self-expression, endured day-in-and day-out assaults from my pinch happy hands, and has had questions directly from people who don’t see the big picture and has always continued to stand for my, and everyone’s, right to communication and self-expression.

Maybe it is time for the subject matter experts to take a stand.  Ask yourself, or your child or student, what they think and allow for them to lead your actions.  Or just be a good human and get out of the way.





Hirsch Rocks!

I am so glad I got to visit Hirsch Academy last week.

Everything I dreamed a school should be, it is.  The playground is off the chain, the building is beautiful, and the classrooms are amazing.

The best thing though is the gracious and caring hearts of the teachers.  Each member of the faculty do really believe in their students.  They see past the outward manifestations of autism and listen for the beautiful being inside.  They nurture who the kids are and what they each need to fulfill their goals in life.

If understanding differences is a skill, they are masters of that skill.

Autism is a spectrum and I met kids from across the spectrum on the playground.  All joyful, all fully supported, and all so amazing.

Sleep was so hard on Monday because I was so feeling the anticipation of my visit on Tuesday.  And I so did not want to leave when we were there.

A shining beacon of acceptance, love, and fostering greatness.

I love you Hirsch Academy!


Without love there is nothing

by Graciela Lotharius & Jordyn Pallett, 28-Feb-2018
collaboratively written alternating lines Graciela & Jordyn, starting with Graciela
* Find more from Graciela at daretolisten.org*

There is love in the air.
Just don’t be a thinker; be a feeler.
When we think, we stop feeling things as they are meant to be felt.
We get in the way of our heart being fulfilled by others and we almost surely dampen our joy.
Love is available to all of us, but some choose not to let it into their hearts.
Can you imagine living your life so closed to others?
When we close ourselves off we stop making the effort to really own our gifts we are supposed to share with others.
Being vulnerable is sometimes scary but we don’t get to always experience the joy if we don’t take the risk.
Risks must be the stepping stone to sure and lovely love that is beautiful.
No great reward ever is because a person believed they were unworthy.
Worthiness is self identified and must be the number one quality on your many lists.
You are worthy. Believe it. Now go be vulnerable with the one you want in your life because the payoff is magical.