Can we not be silent please?

One thing I have been noticing is how easy it is for parents in group situations to forget to be a Communication Partner for their non-speaker.  Parents get wrapped up in discussing plans for the future or their story of the past and forget to be present in the moment.

A Communication Partner, in my opinion, creates and seeks out opportunities to empower their non-speaker’s voice and intentions.  They are an extension of the non-speaker, not their to hold a board when an opportunity to communicate is presented to them.

My mom is tirelessly ensuring that my intentions are fulfilled in private, and more importantly, when we are in groups of my peers.  She ensures she knows my body management goals and my social goals (who I want to converse with to forward my mission in life).  Getting to all this, while ensuring she takes care of our friends, is a full time job.  I think Mom reached her limit a couple times this month, and is learning boundaries while always expanding her capacity, and never just giving up on who she knows herself to be.  I know I sing her praises often, and that that could be viewed as her influencing as a practitioner, but I believe in expressing gratitude where gratitude is warranted.

Mom has been a champion for full self-expression and powerful communication from long before I was born.  She has empowered more leaders in this world by powerfully listening for what is needed and wanted to fulfill their life’s purpose, than anyone reading this could possibly fathom.  She does this without the need for acknowledgement or accolades, with power, grace, and humility.  She is one no nonsense chick.

But, I digress, and always want people to get her magnificence and how truly gifted she is.  Parents would benefit from watching who she is being and what she is doing.  Plus, benefit from listening to this coaching:  “Be very clear of your, and your non-speaker’s intentions and be straight about whether you will be their parent or their designated Communication Partner at events.  Honour your non-speaker’s intentions and goals.  Be kind and empowering to the voiceless!  Only when given a board and an empowering question can we express ourselves. ”

My mission is to unleash our voices.  Who is with me?

Purposefully passionate,
Jordyn

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5 thoughts on “Can we not be silent please?

  1. I love what you have to say here, Jordyn. And your mom shared this very thing from her perspective when we were in Atlanta in February.

    However, do you think it’s impossible to be both a parent and a communication partner at events? Because sometimes the event is targeted to both parties, and it would be nice to be able to take advantage of experiences for both.

    I gladly forego my own needs when Evan needs me. I just wonder if there is a way an event’s organization could be built in a way that supports participation for both parent and nonspeaking attendee.

    What do you think?

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    1. Thanks for asking Elizabeth. I think this goes back to planning. Both on the part of each family, and from the event organizers perspective. Clear expectations all the way around make a big difference. If there are two talks (or a talk and a motor activity), are their trained CRPs available where the non-speaker and parent can separate?
      I ask Mom to always be 75% CRP and 25% Mom. This works well for our relationship, but by no means is a blueprint for others.

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      1. Susan Baker

        I was going to ask the same thing as Elizabeth! Perhaps it depends on the situation? I’d love to be Andrew’s CP as much as possible, but sometimes, you just need to be a mom!!!😆 Will study your mom closely 😉 (She’s one of my ‘mentor moms’ – maybe doesn’t even know that I call her that! No pressure, Kelli!😂) ~ Susan

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  2. Fran

    John and I are with you Jordyn!
    Thank you this post and bringing us focus on you purpose and how we can support you and others.
    Your acknowledgment of your mom was moving and loving. You captured her perfectly .
    Love you
    Fran

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