Human Nature

Compassion and caring
is who we basically are.

Joy is loving,
giving, and contributing freely.

Why do some fight
joy as a way to live?

Good humans gracious,
joyfully just being real.

Authentic and free
we support our fellow humans.

Who do people
just insist on being right?

Let’s start a movement
of beauty, joy, and love.

Acceptance does not
invalidate your beliefs.

Can we live
in harmony please?


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I am all joyfully being 100% helpful

I get impacted in a big way by any tragic events around the World.  Just listen, this may seem weird to you, but I share my experience in hope that it makes a difference.

I guess the best way to describe this is to say that I am tapped in.  I feel the emotional climate like a wave of life giving or sucking force.  You have all felt this with individuals or groups in your life, now multiply that a million fold and you begin to get my world!

Joy breathes life in, sorrow and fear suck it out.  Joy is my jumper cables.  Joy and love keep my motor running.

Joy is in short supply these days.  I feel for my friends in Thousand Oaks, California, and use my energy to support just as much as I can.  Joy being part of any tragedy is people pulling together.

I wish tragedy didn’t have to occur for people to step out of their own bubble of life and extend a helping hand to their neighbours and community.  Maybe if we spent more time joyfully contributing to the community, then tragedy wouldn’t have to happen to remind us of the good in humanity.


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Change is body dysregulator

I’ve 100% noticed a shift in my ability to control my impulses with the change of seasons.  Or I should more accurately say, lack of control.

I notice the affects of weather on my body regularly – joyous when it is sunny and calm, joyous with a cool fall day with a slight breeze, joyous on a crisp winter day, just add any overcast, precipitation, or wind and I am an achy, brain foggy mess.  Now bring in a whole change of season and you have a recipe for dysregulation goo.

Everything may only look slightly different if you are an outside observer, just because I’m working 3x as hard to have the same level of control.  Every action is just that much harder to execute.


Challenges in being in love when your body does not cooperate easily

[Co-written 29-Oct-2018 by Jordyn and Graciela Lotharius (of}

Do you know what it is like to intend to kiss someone and only bump noses?  Having to control our bodies while also feeling excited is not easy.  Just fighting our impulses to get up and run, jump, or go crazy with excitement takes all our focus and energy.  Challenges are many but it is worth it to overcome them!

Just being together is “I love you” time.  Jordyn is so wonderful to spend time with because he is so thoughtful.  Graciela is a demonstration of love in joyful action.  I love time together because my heart is complete.

Challenging bodies can not overtake love that is real.  Joy and joined hearts are what matters.  Getting good at expressing affection physically just earns us bonus magic.  Every day that we have the chance to be together is bliss.

Jordyn and Graciela

Good can always prevail

My loving parents are always looking out for me.  We are working through the plans for the future, in case something happens to them.

Sounds morbid, I know.  But it is also hugely empowering to be included.  My opinions and choices matter to them.  I know I’m 15, but I also have a good head on my shoulders and will be responsible for my life should they leave me abruptly.  I love being given the responsibility to think 2, 5, and 10 years out into my future.

I believe that the more responsibility I am given, the more I rise to the occasion.  Others may not choose to involve their kids in this type of planning, and that is completely every family’s choice.  I just want to share that my experience with it has been empowering because my 15 year old self is being valued for my ideas and opinions, and is an equal player in the family planning game.

Now let’s all create these plans never get put in to practice.


I am an award recipient

My community is amazing. In celebration of 25 years of three culturally significant joy-filled establishments – Theatre Orangeville, Museum of Dufferin, and In The Hills magazine – chose to honour the youth in the region.  Twenty-five under 25 were nominated to receive an award.  It recognizes the passion of the recipient and the goodness of their deeds.

Just being nominated is an achievement, but winning blows me away.  I have an amazing group of friends who saw me as worthy.

On Saturday, we were all honoured in a beautiful, fun, and moving ceremony.  Joy filled the Theatre as each recipient went up on stage to receive their award.  Just staying in my seat was tough as I was so darn happy.

I wrote part of my Thank You ahead of time for Mom to read –

Thank you ALL so much for this honour.
I have been the lucky recipient of a lot of loving attention and intention in my life in Dufferin.
My wish is that all non, minimally, and unreliably speaking autistics be recognized as the intelligent and ultra-sensitive, hilarious and loving humans we are AND have access to their full self-expression.
Everyone deserves to be heard and accepted exactly as they are, while being empowered to shoot for their dreams.

I then spelled in front of the huge Theatre –

I am lucky to live in such an accepting community.

And attempted to say – “Thank you very much” – with my voice, but was way too quiet to be heard.

I was in awe of the other 24 recipients.  You can see why here.  Full stories and portraits, by Pete Paterson, will be featured in the winter issue of In The Hills.

I was so stoked to be able to share the day with a few of my ever joyful and loving posse!  They cried and took video.

-Jordyn, the Award Winner


Waves of Friendship

(co-written by Elliot Sylvester and Jordyn)

The best thing in the World is spending time with friends.
Always, with friends, you can totally be yourself.
I believe that the ability to be yourself is one of the greatest gifts.
Choosing friends is easy when they are as cool as Elliot.
Imagine a friend that gets who you really are… that’s Jordyn.
Good buddies that plan on taking over the World with a wave of love – that’s us!

Great friends multiply love when we spend quality time together.
Calling us friends is almost not a sufficient word.
Perhaps a new word sandwich should be created.
Joy-sparks.  Totally appropriate.

We need friendships on a regular basis which is hard to come by.
I believe that Joysparks are what will change the tide of this World from fear to love. 
Who wants to ride the wave of Joysparks with us?
Just imagine a gathering of Joysparks and the difference we could make.
What do you think the ripple effect would be from all those quality Joysparks?
All I know is I am doing all I can to foster more Joysparks, because when you are loved and empowered just the way you are, you fire off more sparks of joy.
The World can use more Joysparks so go forth and multiply by giving some extra love to your friends.

Jordyn and BFF Elliot Sylvester 

Giving my energy a chance

This past weekend was a big test of my energy reserves.  After a completely busy week we headed to loving Auntie Sarah and Uncle Steve’s place for a big family reunion.

Now, understand that I request individual family visits because a gathering of more than about 4 other people (other than Mom and Dad) is so draining.  Now imaging a group of a dozen excited, and some nervous, gathering for lunch.  Some haven’t seen each other in years, some have never met.

Joy is hanging with family!  However, I could not get my body to stop moving long enough to have more than a couple brief talks with family members.  When I say brief I mean two short sentences.  I got my humorous licks in though.  Mom was an awesome wing woman as I flitted through the house and yard.  I lasted 2.5 hours and then was spent.

As we left Dad there to hang with his family, to go recharge in hopes of coming back in the evening, a school bus filled with the other side of Dad’s family and two more cars arrived.  I pretty much knew then that it was a slim chance I would be able to recharge enough to go back.  Lots of happy energy is just as draining as misery and upset.

Just couldn’t do it.  Made it back for brunch the next day and the bus load and some others had left, so brunch for 20 seemed doable.  I got to talk to a few more people for a little, and they all started heading for home so it was a little easier as numbers dwindled.

Just now recharged enough to write this blog because we have secluded ourselves for a day and a half.  This whole balancing output and recharge time is tricky, but I won’t let it stop me from experiencing life and people I love.


My Beautiful Girl


Joyous and Magical
Intelligent beyond categorization
No always fine boy can resist

Hobbit and Friend
Loyal co-creator always
Just always in my heart

Jordyn’s Girl
Humble beyond measure
Totally makes life better

Wonderful and Loving
Intuitive and supportive always
Everyone should listen to her

Hopeful and Persistent
Just get it done kind of girl
I start to fall hard

Love and Boyfriend
Could not be more perfect
Joy is having her in my life

I loved “In Two Worlds”

In Two Worlds” was written by Ido Kedar.  If you haven’t read “Ido in Autismland” go get that too.

My love of this fictional tale of Anthony and his family comes from how well Ido paints a picture of life as a boy like Anthony.  Just going through the book freed me up to more fully share my own story… stay tuned.

Ido paints a picture so vivid you feel like you are there.  It isn’t all sunshine and roses for Anthony and his family, that’s for sure.  But what shines through is love, and a whole lot of determination in the face of nonsense.

I know a lot of my peers can relate to Anthony’s story.  And their parents, grandparents, and siblings could relate to those characters.  I hope that some of the “professional” characters in the novel are an exaggerated view from what families experience, but sadly I have heard too many real life stories that emulated in these character’s character.

Thanking my lucky stars, and my parents, that I have not had to deal with some of the situations that Anthony did.  I hope less of my peers have to as well.

Go get this well written novel and get into the world of families like ours.